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Fed up!

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Fed up!

Hi all, 

I don't know whether I'm doing the right thing, but I'm really fed up with my in law. I'm depressed. I can't handle her anymore. The problem is she is a dementia patient and she is showing extreme anger at times. She is refusing to take medicines and showing annoying behaviour. Actually, I love her, but I don't know how to deal with such patients. I'm frustrated as well as guilty. I know, it's my responsibility to take care of her. I'm really confused. My sister suggested me to seek the help of an elderly care service in Toronto to hire a caregiver. I had already contacted them and they had offered 24-hour nursing service to my in-law. Still, I'm confused. Am I doing the right thing? Any thoughts?

Some thoughts

If you are overwhelmed it is okay to get help.  You have to do what is best for her and you.  If she won't take meds a third party may be able to persuade her.  Don't feel guilty if you are doing the best you can.  Only you know if you are or not.  It is so hard to deal with dementia patients. Know you aren't alone.