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I’m at the end of my rope, barely hanging on

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SeaDreams1
I’m at the end of my rope, barely hanging on

 

 

Hi,  I’m new to this group. I’m an only child, living in my parents home taking care of my Dad who has multiple health issues to include vascular dementia. My Mom has sever spine issues, but is mentally competent, other than being one of the nastiest and most difficult human beings on earth. I have a full time job, have some health issues of my own, as well as financial. I do all of the cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking, and any other thing that needs to be done. I personally don’t have the money for a house keeper to come in and my parents refuse to pay. I’m tired, overwhelmed, depressed, sad, have constant anxiety, and sometimes think I could end it all. I am under the care of a therapist and currently taking anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds. But honestly, every day is a struggle. I wake up tired and stressed. 

My Mom verbally abuses both my Dad and me, constantly complaining, slave driving, talking to us like we’re scum of the earth. She and I fight non-stop. She’s a big part of my problem and I’m starting to strongly dislike her.

I guess I joined this community page for support, advice, words of wisdom, sympathy, or to simply know I’m not alone. I’m desperate for something, not sure what? 

 

 

akyllingmark
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Hey there! I hope you're

Hey there! I hope you're doing ok. I'm living with my parents and caring for both of them (not alone, fortunately). They are both sweet as pie, but there are days I just want to rip my hair out. I can hardly imagine the situation with your mom. I believe a lot of the bad behavior comes from feeling powerless, from an inability to control even the most basic aspects of their lives. It's not an excuse, not at all. I heartily recommend reading Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward https://books.google.com/books?id=GENfDwAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover&dq=emotional+blackmail&hl=en&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiBrZGZ4IjkAhXEvZ4KHYCRBCYQ6AEwAHoECAUQAg#v=onepage&q=emotional%20blackmail&f=false .

It was illuminating and quite helpful for me. The most important point I took from it was that I teach people how to treat me. I wish you the best of luck. If you want to talk, respond here.

geebranz
geebranz

You're stronger than you think

 

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