Hello, new member here. I'm looking for a place to talk about what I do, how I feel, the stress of being a caregiver. I haven't browsed the site much so I'm a little unsure of how I will be received by you all.
Im new here as well. Im caring for my bf with MS (currently we arent together) but I am still in his life. Its taken an emotional toll on me and its hard to be supportive when very little support is returned. It can feel hopeless at times. I also struggle with this being my life. I deeply love and care for him so turning my back on him seems cruel. My problem is he will say hes struggling or needs help and I have no idea how to help him with such a vague comment. I try to probe further and he shuts down on me. Its frustrating.
My mom is a very astute 79 year old. She has always worried more than others and she was a neat freak. As she has aged those have gone to the extreme. She has some IBD so she refuses to eat out with her friends. She won't wear makeup saying that her face breaks out ( although she is beautiful without it ) but uses that as an excuse to not go out with her friends or even shopping. Her stress level over minor health issues is over the top. She is upset that we live in a rural area and don't have access to to medical care. She doesn't want to watch tv. She wants to talk about her problems all the time. She will pick a fight with my dad or me if he doesn't talk about the same thing repeatedly. When we try to offer solutions, she finds an excuse why they won't work. She had a maid who died recently. Mom is very particular about the cleaning products she uses and doesn't want to pay anyone else so she complains about cleaning. My dad is not physically able to help and that makes her mad too. She gets on social media and that depresses her unless someone post they are going through something bad.
My dad is unwilling to get help physically or move into assisted living. I understand this stresses her. He can't live alone. But I can't convince him he needs help. They are both mentally sound. My dad never complains but won't help himself either. He will go to the doctor take meds but absolutely no rehab physically. Refuses to use a cane or walker. I'm sorry for rambling. My husband tries to help but he thinks mom won't get better without anti anxiety meds which she refuses( I believe mostly due to generational stigma, but her excuse is her stomach issues). I have tried showing her medical studies where anti anxiety meds actually can help IBD. I am an only child and have no one else to consult. My mother would be livid if I asked a pastor or friend for help. She is so private. I am Trying so hard.
Caregiving is incredibly demanding, and it's essential to have a space to talk about its challenges backpack battles and the emotions that come with it.
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Im new here as well. Im caring for my bf with MS (currently we arent together) but I am still in his life. Its taken an emotional toll on me and its hard to be supportive when very little support is returned. It can feel hopeless at times. I also struggle with this being my life. I deeply love and care for him so turning my back on him seems cruel. My problem is he will say hes struggling or needs help and I have no idea how to help him with such a vague comment. I try to probe further and he shuts down on me. Its frustrating.
My mom is a very astute 79 year old. She has always worried more than others and she was a neat freak. As she has aged those have gone to the extreme. She has some IBD so she refuses to eat out with her friends. She won't wear makeup saying that her face breaks out ( although she is beautiful without it ) but uses that as an excuse to not go out with her friends or even shopping. Her stress level over minor health issues is over the top. She is upset that we live in a rural area and don't have access to to medical care. She doesn't want to watch tv. She wants to talk about her problems all the time. She will pick a fight with my dad or me if he doesn't talk about the same thing repeatedly. When we try to offer solutions, she finds an excuse why they won't work. She had a maid who died recently. Mom is very particular about the cleaning products she uses and doesn't want to pay anyone else so she complains about cleaning. My dad is not physically able to help and that makes her mad too. She gets on social media and that depresses her unless someone post they are going through something bad. My dad is unwilling to get help physically or move into assisted living. I understand this stresses her. He can't live alone. But I can't convince him he needs help. They are both mentally sound. My dad never complains but won't help himself either. He will go to the doctor take meds but absolutely no rehab physically. Refuses to use a cane or walker. I'm sorry for rambling. My husband tries to help but he thinks mom won't get better without anti anxiety meds which she refuses( I believe mostly due to generational stigma, but her excuse is her stomach issues). I have tried showing her medical studies where anti anxiety meds actually can help IBD. I am an only child and have no one else to consult. My mother would be livid if I asked a pastor or friend for help. She is so private. I am Trying so hard.
Caregiving is incredibly demanding, and it's essential to have a space to talk about its challenges backpack battles and the emotions that come with it.
Given how taxing caregiving is, it's critical to have a forum where caregivers may discuss the difficulties and feelings they experience. tunnel rush
Interesting and amazing how your post is! It Is Useful and helpful snaptik for me That I like it very much, and I am looking forward to Hearing from your next.