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Hi, I'm new to the sight.  my spouse has young-onset Parkinson's.  He was diagnosed 10 years ago with PD, his condition has gotten worst since 2017 when he had deep brain stimulation surgery.  He since has behavioral changes, split personality, addictive behaviors, loss of concentration, depression, suicidal thoughts, loss of appetite, losing physical strength, memory loss, and no longer able to live independently.  He started having an affair in 2018, 2 months ago the mistress talked him into moving out of his home into an apartment.  She moved in with him and now expects him to support her for the rest of her life.  His old self misses his family and wants to move home, but his new self isn't allowing him to do so.  Plus the mistress is controlling his life now.  My spouse wants my help to move him home, but the new self doesn't allow it.  He told me 2 days ago the end is near, which means he needs to move into assisted living.  What do we do?  It's bad enough he's not well, but to have another person controlling a sick person is making it difficult and we have exhausted all our options.  Any ideas?



Did you know what happened?

Since I have been working in the health care industry and I can proudly say that health and happiness are the biggest blessings and most of the people ignore it. I know a few people who are in their late 60's and they still jog like kms daily. We at Lincoln Home Care encourage and help eldersin their work like meal preparation, medicine reminders, grocery shopping, playing games with them. So they could live a happy life. 


It should really be the decision of the one with the disease, you can't help someone if he does not want help. Ask him without the mistress if what he would love to do. That should be his decision, not his wife, not you.

Good luck
My mom also had Parkinson's disease. She suffered greatly from the physical decline. Mentally she was still completely fine. But the physical complaints were enormous. She needed a lot of help. She got it from a home nurse. The pedicure also came to take care of her feet because she could no longer do this herself. Also the manicure and hairdresser came to her house to make sure she kept looking good. She also had a lot of pain and a massage therapist came to relax her muscles. In the meantime, she passed away a few months ago. The biggest struggle was mentally to accept that you are extremely limited… Good luck to all who are confronted with this disease.
Oh if forgot to mention. Also

Oh if forgot to mention. Also every week a skin specialist came by to apply some skin care. Because that was a hard thing to do for herself.


Also the swallowing problems made her have to adjust her food. That is why we contacted a good dietician. She worked a healthy and varied diet. Thanks to dietist Gent

I'm so sorry to hear what

I'm so sorry to hear what your spouse go through for the past few years. I know it's very hard for you too. So how was it going now? I hope everything is now okay. The mistress doesn't have the right to control him, you have all the right to get him back especially that your spouse wants to leave her for good. 

Sad to hear his situation.

Sad to hear his situation. Hoping he gets well soon.

Rob |