I can't say that I'm "New" to caregiving because I've been doing it fulltime for almost 2 years. BUT. At times I feel like I have no idea what I am doing. About me. I'm 38 years old, married, 4 kids, 17,9,7 and 3. I moved in with my grandmother (80) about 2 years ago because her dementia was getting so bad she couldn't be on her own. I was attempting to caregive from my home, but she refused to move in with me. Recently she has gotten progressively worse. She wanders so much that I had to find a way to lock down the house at night. I caught her going outside at 4am in freezing temps in her night clothes. She gets frustrated with me because she cannot get outside. (I put hook locks high up on the doors with spring loaded locks on them). I have caught her before she chowed down a handful of dog food. She walks through the house "stealing" my kids toys, or my phone, keys, purse, wallet, .. basically anything she finds interesting and hides them in her room. My two boys have not been able to find their DS systems for over a year now. I've looked, can't find them either. What I need advice about.... She is getting to the point to where she is mean. She treats one of my children (7 year old) VERY badly. She takes food off of his plate at meal time and eats it. She will take it off and give it to another one of my kids. When he gets mad and says something she reacts to him by calling him a liar. When he says, "You hate me grandma!" She gets nice to him and is right next to him the rest of the day not allowing him to do what he wants to do. My 17 year old decides to go out with his friends, she paces the floor, looking out the window looking for him. Telling me that I kicked him out, she's leaving. I reassure her that he will be back he's just out, she is ok for a second, then right back at it. My 3 year old gets smothered by her. She gets mad at my daughter if she will not sleep with her and wants to sleep in her own bed. She tries to go in her room and wake her up in the middle of the night. How do I manage both my kids and my grandmother without having my children resent her? I've explained to them that grandma is sick.. not the 3 year old.. but I'm not sure they understand or want to "deal" with her.