I don't know where to start. Three of us are caring for mom...with me, two sisters, may mom and my dad there are often five different opinions on everything. Sometimes the political crap affects things, like when the COVID deniers won't wear masks or take precautions around the home bound parents. And sometimes it's a matter of training and education...I live farthest away so had less experience with the caregiving tasks, and when I was able to start taking a 48 hour shift the others assumed I knew everything they did. I don't. And sometimes my parents don't want to do things the sisters want them to do. Sometimes I don't know if I need to insist on something no matter what they say, or if sometimes they should have their way even if it isn't in the best interests of their health. They are both aged...one is in the end stages of lymphoma and nearly paralyzed in bed except for being able to move their lower arms, one is nearly deaf and nearly blind. I've never been one to insist on them doing anything. If I force some things on them, things that need doing, there is screaming and crying and wishing to die and complaints about being treated like children. If I don't, there are accusations of neglect and abuse from the sisters. How do you know what is right? How do you keep doing things right and not guessing wrong after two days of not sleeping? Is this often a problem with multiple caretaker siblings, and how do I know the right thing to do?