I'm a newlywed. In addition to some health issues (hemophilia and a heart condition he has had since birth), he's been battling depression and anxiety pretty intensely the past year or so. We have wonderful days and we have atrocious days - days where he struggles to get out of bed, will start sobbing and see he wants to leave because he doesn't think he deserves someone that will be by his side and help him handle this. I don't know how to deescalate these situations when they happen and am afraid I am causing more harm than good. I just don't know what to do.
Hi neverenoughtime, that sounds really tough and I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds like your husband is going through a lot of feelings of "not enoughness." Have you had a conversation with him during the "good days" about how he wants to be supported? I think having that conversation will be the best step and then it's trial and error. Is he also seeking outside professional help as well? With that, I think it's a good idea on his good days to shop around for professionals who can help - be sure to find someone he feels a personal connection to. I hope that helps, and please keep us posted. You're definitely not alone in sometimes not know what to do. I think all of us have experienced that before as well! Sending lots of love to your and your husband.