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My sister's story of depression

Hello everyone!! I remember my sister's first panic attack very well. She was going through a difficult breakup and had just landed in Toronto. She was walking along through a crowded subway station, and suddenly the lights seemed very bright and it seemed like there were an awful lot of people. I remember her first mild depression symptoms. She explained her experience via text message it was like this.   I notice the physical signs first. My heart is beating too heavily, its rhythm somehow irregular but much too fast. The muscles in my arms and legs tense painfully, my hands begin to shake, suddenly I forget how to breathe. Each breath is a struggle, each inhales or exhale more difficult than the last. I called my friend and he calmed me down a little and said to rest a bit.  The psychiatrist she went to see later that day was very supportive and explained to her what was happening. She was suffering from mild depression at that time and she prescribed certain medications. It just gave her a temporary relief. Recently I heard about medical marijuana treatment and its advantages. It is a good medicine for people who are troubled with anxiety, depression, arthritis, migraine, sleep disorders, epilepsy etc. Will doctors suggest a high rate of prescription? Will this treatment have many side effects?  What if she is not happy with her prescription? 

Medical Marijuana

I would suggest first looking at the differences of medical marijuana treatment. Their are CBD only, THC only and CBD/THC mix. I'm no doctor but have some experience. Marijuana is a calming agent, however it is a downer and can cause depression to get worse if that is a current issue. Lots of research is needed before trying and lots of talks with your doctor. I would assume they would prescribe CBD only for what you have explained and at a lower consistency than others to try it. I know their is CBD oil that you can drop a few drops into the morning coffee and it helps tremendously. Just make sure to do your research, talk with others that may be using it and how it affects them and talk with your doctor about side effects that your sister may experience and what to watch for. Good luck! I know here in Colorado it has become a popular alternative to traditional medicines with way less side effects than the traditional medicines. Just make sure that you are getting it from a trusted source such as a distributor or dispensary. 

Doctors normally give small

Doctors normally give small prescriptions at first then eventually will increase the dosage of the medication. Just always be observant if she will be having some side effects or other issues and inform her doctor at once.

Loving wife
Worried about my husband

My husband has been depressed for quite a while. He was put on a new med, and seemed to be doing better. But now he has developed severe anxiety. He has been on 2 new meds for this but nothing really helps. I don't know how to help him. I am worried about how I react. Am I enabling or helping him when I offer sympathy. I just don't know what to do anymore.

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Hi lovingwife, I'm so sorry

Hi lovingwife, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It's really hard wanting to help someone we love and not knowing whether we are doing the right thing or not. The general rule of thumb that I follow is, "whatever is in my best interest, is always going to be in my loved one's best interest." If you take care of yourself first, mentally, emotionally, and physically, you will be best equipped to help your husband. So self care needs to come first. The question to ask yourself in every single situation is, "How can I best help myself for the purpose of helping my husband? How can I feel the most well, expansive, and loving right now so that I can pass it on to my husband?" If that means sometimes leaving him alone so that you can bring your own energy back up, then do that. If sometimes it means just to sit there and rub his back, then do that. And on his "good days," if he has those, I suggest having a conversation with him to ask him how he thinks he can be supported. And then you decide if you can provide that in some way (whether it's through you or through an outside source). I hope that helps. Sending so much love to you and yours. 

Sister's Depression

Hello, My oldest sister was diagnosed around her late 20's with depression and has had so many ups and downs. To make a life long timeline of stories short she tells you what you want to hear all the time. She is now extremely obese and diabetic 30 years after her diagnosis. Now she doesn't quite click right with the world and reality. She is controlling and has been our mom's caretaker for over 12 years. She loves conducting her own set of rules about all of her psychiatric medications. She has done so that i know of for at least the past 10 years. She controls every aspect of our 87 year old mother's life who has dementia and can't stand the thought of anyone else doing a better job. She also says when our mother passes away she will let herself go becuase there would be no one else to care for (or control). She is not very smart, she dropped out of high school in 9th grade. Our parents were migrant workers and didn't know at the time the value of her learning and graduating high school. She ended up taking on the responsibility of a 2nd mom and even now feels she has the right to tell the rest of us (5 siblings) what is right from wrong. I know the difficulty you face. I feel hopeless for her sometimes as she withdraws further into a world of solitude. I pray for her salvation and life to be saved somehow. She is different and difficult when it comes to cooperating all the time and refuses it from anyone so i only could hope she could find a church where she could get some help.

She won't try medical marijuana for personal reasons, i use to love it when i was younger. She can't stand her family knowing about something she doens't want to look stupid or say the wrong thing, hence wanting to sound off on every little detail whether situations warrant it or not.

What i'm saying is that i feel for you for i know what you go thru. 

Sister's Depression

what i meant to finish w/ is that marijuana is just as harmful itself and its also a temp fix. at least medication could be monitored for progress and what is helpful. Marijuana is more of a depressant and will continue to add to her depression. i know because that is what it did to me!