Trying 2b kidney donor 4 spouse

Hello there. My husband has been on dialysis for 5 years. He said he could be another 7 years for him to get a kidney donation. I've decided to become a kidney donor which is a buddy system where I give to someone and someone gives 1 to him because we're not a match to each other. I hear from a lady at the hospital that says she got a kidney only after being on dialysis 3 and a 1/2 years. What the h*** ? I feel like what kind of crap are we being shoveled if I hear one thing from 1 nurse and see somebody with a totally different situation. And she was much older than my husband which is another piece of crap fact why he's waiting longer. He's not even 50 ,this old bitch is in her 60's. I'm pissed.
I feel pissed because if I don't give him a kidney then I watched him deteriorate even faster and longer suffering and frankly I'm tired of hearing him suffer.
Can't even go out for a decent time on weekends when i work so much during the week to spend time with each other. Because he's so sick all the dam time.