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Dealing with excessive phone calls from dementia patient

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Dealing with excessive phone calls from dementia patient

My mother has been diagnosed for several years now, but she hasn't lost much of her verbal ability! She calls me many times a day. Calls last from 15 to 45 minutes. I try to do other things when I talk to her, but it's still overwhelming. She's in an assisted living facility for two years now, but I still feel that I have no life outside of dealing with her demands or recovering from an interaction with or about her.

Many of the calls are about how much she hates the facility and insisting that I come pick her up and bring her to my apartment for a visit.

I've resorted to routing her calls to voicemail sometimes, but then she leaves desperate, nasty voicemails saying I'm avoiding her, not taking care of her, she's going to get a lawyer, she'll tell the whole family about me, she won't leave me any money, etc.